Going Back to the Original

Are you regretting not finishing your degree? Rethinking about letting your old dream die? Maybe you’ve folded too quickly when you should have held out for a little longer. Sometimes when we’re faced with a rut in our life going back to your original plan is the best plan. After all, sometimes the first really is the best.

Problems can arise from trying to go back. Skepticism or exasperation from those around you who wonder why you didn’t do it in the first place.Finances are different (and not for the better) than when you were first starting your plan. Even we can sabotage ourselves by doubting our abilities and engaging with Impostor Syndrome. It makes a person want to keep trudging on their ill-begotten path.

But if you got a heart pulse (sorry vampires!), it’s never too late to go back to what you should have done so long ago. And I have a few tips for getting back to your original plan.

  1. Make a plan. Start with a general outline, then move onto the details. If you’re not good with developing the big picture or the details, find a trusted person who can help you.
  2. Do the plan. Sometimes we get stuck in the planning phase trying to create a perfect plan that we end up not doing anything. Remember, life happens and your plan may be changed along the way.
  3. Tweak the old dream. Say you want to be a filmmaker but you don’t have a huge studio. Tweak it a bit and go the indie route.
  4. Have a support group. The group doesn’t need to be large and I would argue you just need a small group of trusted people whom can both criticize you and uplift you.
  5. Make sure to have relaxation time. You can’t accomplish anything if you’re stressed out.

Admitting that you made a mistake can be a hard one. It can be scary revisiting the past and realizing that old dream was feasible. It doesn’t have to be impossible.  All you got to do is just do it.

Now for the conversation starter: What’s an old dream that you let go that you want to start up again? Please share it in the comments.

 

 

 

Surviving and Thriving through Impostor Syndrome

Do you have a tiny voice in your head that constantly calls you a fraud with only lies to back up its claims. Telling you that everything you have was unearned and you’re not that knowledgeable? That you only got where you’re at because of luck or circumstances. It can even tell you that you’re not worthy of love from God or your fellow human beings?

Congratulations, you may be suffering or on the brink of getting Impostor Syndrome!

So what is this syndrome? As I described above, the syndrome occurs when a person starts to become really successful and has doubts that their success is legitimate. What separates this from the usual doubts is that it’s not true. (For a more detailed look into the syndrome, check out Cal Tech’s website. )

Now you’re probably wondering how to avoid or survive when the syndrome strikes. While I don’t have all the answers, these are some of the ways that I have coped when I feel doubts coming on:

  1. Practice confidence without the pride.
  2. Don’t compare yourselves to other. The fastest way to feeling like an impostor is to compare yourself to others.
  3. Give yourself a break once in a while. If you can, try and take a self-care moment and do something you love not related to your doubts. It could be reading, dancing, or hanging out with friends.
  4. Listen to the people who care enough to critique you. They’re the ones who will tell it like it is but aren’t doing it to be petty or to build themselves up. They’re also the ones most likely to tell you that you’re better than what your own thoughts leave you to believe.
  5. If you really think you’re not that good, fix it. Learn new skills while keeping your old skills sharp. Not only will you improve, but you won’t have time to contemplate whether that voice is true or not.
  6. Remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God. Whatever your circumstances, you’re here now and God won’t let you handle anything He doesn’t think you can.

In short, it’s okay to toot your horn once in a while and shout to the world that your accomplishments were earned. Always have a support group that doesn’t enable, but encourage you to succeed and celebrates your successes.  If it gets to rough, talk to a counselor about it.

Now I want to hear from y’all. Do you think Impostor Syndrome applies to you or someone you know? How do you cope with it? Please let me know in the comments.

 

Pastel Overload: Cherry Blossom Frappucino Review

Spring is right around the corner so prepare for pastel in everything you see, wear, or in the case of Starbucks, drink.

From March 15 to Match 20, Starbucks offered a Cherry Blossom Frappucino in their American locations inspired by the Japanese cherry blossoms tradition (the beverage has been available in Japan since 2010). This drink made for Instagram is made with strawberries and cream with white chocolate sauce and a drizzle of matcha syrup and matcha powder sprinkled on the top of the whipped cream.

First things first, this drink is ridiculously pretty. I’m not the biggest pastel fan, but even I’m reconsidering my stance after seeing this drink. Plus, how often can you say the drink looks exactly like the advertisement?

But of course, I’m not running an Instagram account here, we have to talk about the taste.

Despite the name, the most pronounced flavor was the strawberries. And when I mean pronounced, I mean the flavor punches your tongue with the flavor to the point that you forget there are other flavors mixed in. I forgot that white chocolate sauce was even used until I looked up the ingredients for this blog post. This didn’t bother me since I’m not down with the white chocolate like am I with dark, but I’m sure fans of the stuff will be disappointed.

As for the matcha, the already subtle flavor is drowned out by the strawberry flavor. It’s almost like the flavor was used as part of the design and its Japanese roots rather than the flavor. While disappointing to matcha fans, this may make the drink more palatable to those who have no idea what the green stuff is or aren’t too adventurous.

Overall, I give the drink an 8/10. You can’t go wrong with an ice cold strawberry drink and the Cherry Blossom Frappucino gives you that with an added bonus of pretty colors. I’m hoping this means us American fans we’ll get to try more international Starbucks products.

Foodie Friday

Of course, Ben and Jerry would have an ice cream using speculoos cookie butter. Of course, I had to go and try it and share my experience with y’all. And of course, it wouldn’t be a Foodie Friday without some pictures.

Let’s get this out of the way: it was okay.

Creating an ice cream utilizing cookie butter and speculoos is a great idea and there are elements that work well. Having speculoos pieces throughout the ice cream proved that Ben & Jerry’s strongest advantage are their cake and cookie pieces (the red velvet cake ice cream is still one of my favorite ice creams) and they bring their A-game here.

For a strong flavor like speculoos, vanilla is the way to go and thank goodness they have it in here. While the container does say it has dark caramel ice cream, the caramel wasn’t too overpowering and worked in conjunction with the cookie butter and speculoos, creating a not too sickly sweet treat.

That being said, it does fail with a major component of theme: the cookie butter. Full disclosure, I enjoy cookie butter. Especially on a plain waffle or piece of bread, it adds the right amount of cinnamon. Here though, it’s not working as well and the problem lies with it being a solid core in the center. I think swirls of cookie butter throughout the ice cream might have worked better.

And it could use more cookie pieces (then again, all ice cream could use more cookie or cake pieces).

Overall, the ice cream wasn’t too terrible, but man, it’s going to be taking up space in the freezer for while. And I’ll be reminded of the ice cream as I go to get out my gluten-free waffles from the freezer to spread some cookie butter on them and saying that I will finish the ice cream at some point.

 

Foodie Friday: No Cereal for Young People?

Recently, the New York Times had an article on their website concerning cereal sales going down and down and how Millennials just aren’t eating cereal like our parents back in the day. The most intriguing part of the article was that a survey stated that 40 percent of us weren’t eating cereal because we don’t want to go through the rigmarole of fixing a bowl of their favorite cereal and cleaning up said bowl.

Cue the lament from older generations about how lazy our generation is while ignoring that 60 percent of us would rather eat oatmeal and breakfast sandwiches.

But I’m interested in the 40 percent who said they didn’t have time. Are they the types who believe breakfast is just coffee and maybe a piece of fruit? Are they the ones who value sleep more than food (i.e. everyone in college)? Do they simply prefer brunch over breakfast because you can have alcohol and not have people judging you? Maybe they’re just not in the mood to stare at a bowl of soggy cereal in the morning and experiencing an existential crisis about their life choices. Whatever the reason, the cereal companies have taken notice and are doing their best to court our generation that has realized that cereal may not actually be the best food to start the day with.

My suggestion? Stop marketing it as a breakfast food and make it an everyday food. Lord knows I’ve eaten cereal more than a few times for dinner.You wouldn’t even have to abandon your sugary roots. Really push a lot of the sugary cereals like Lucky Charms or Cinnamon Toast Crunch and create recipes like donuts topped with cereal or crunchy chocolate cereal bark.

I personally look forward to seeing Trix infused organic ice cream at my local place.

Foodie Friday: Exploring Austin’s Chinatown Center

Tip for all of you travelers deciding where to eat: Always visit the places that aren’t in your hometown.

A while ago, my friend and I decided to go to Chinatown Center located in Austin to catch up and for nostalgia. Back when I was in college, my friends and I would make the trek for some food and treats to take back with us to campus.

First stop was some bahn mis and spring rolls from Baguette House and Cafe.

If you’ve never heard of a bahn mi, it’s a Vietnamese answer to an American sub. On crispy french bread, you can get a variety of meat (I got the House Combination with pate) along with cilantro, pickled carrots and daikon, mayonnaise, soy sauce, and jalapenos. Thankfully, they put the jalapenos to the side and I could enjoy the sandwich without the terrible tasting peppers.

My friend ordered us some spring rolls with barbecue pork and it was pretty good. I definitely want to try and make my own one day!

After lunch, it was time to walk around and what better place than a market? While in MT Market, we picked up some interesting new treats, including a new flavor of Kit-Kats, tea flavored candies and Assam Milk Tea.

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I’ve had milk tea before, but not this particular brand. The taste was definitely the same, sweet and a taste similar to tapioca balls. It wasn’t too sweet and it had the right amount of creaminess to it. I had mine chilled, but the can says you can drink it warm or cold (just don’t microwave the tea in the can).

The new flavor for Kit Kats is sweet potato flavor. While it’s supposed to be toasted, I opted out from enduring with another melty candy like the baked cheesecake flavor and ate it plain. It was very sweet and reminded me of the ube flavor Kit-Kat I had a while back.

Lastly, the tea candies. They had several different flavors, but ultimately I picked green tea latte. It was as if I was drinking a cup right here and now. The green tea was very strong with a nice creamy texture. I definitely would recommend putting this candy in your jar.

Last stop on the Austin trip was for some dessert at Snow Monster (and before you wonder, it wasn’t too cold outside).

I’m pretty sure I was thinking shaved ice in my head, not realizing that the store specialized in shaved milk or snow ice as they call it. According to the website, it’s a popular traditional treat in Taiwan that involves shaving from frozen milk (though you can get soy or water a.k.a Pure Ice) and adding in syrup and any toppings you want.

As you can see by the left picture, I didn’t exactly pick the most aesthetically pleasing bowl. Still, the matcha flavor was nice and not too harsh and I love the mochi and the tapioca balls on top. My friend’s bowl (on the right) was a bit more colorful choosing a green apple syrup, strawberries, mochi, and pecans. We each tried the other and the verdict was positive for both.

My recommendation? Get a small if you don’t plan on splitting. We both got a small and it was definitely enough for one person!

I had a great time exploring more of the Chinatown in Austin and I definitely have plans to come back again.

Media Monday: Review of Jughead #1-3

In a time of reboots, sequels, and remakes, decades-long franchise Archie Comics recently rebooted their favorite redhead last year with an enjoyable first issue and favorable reviews. But we’re not here to talk about the indecisive redhead. We’re here to talk about the solo series around his best friend/epic daydreamer, Jughead Jones.

The series started back in October with the story by Chip Zdarsky and art by Erica Henderson (you’ve seen her work on Squirrel Girl). The series focuses on the titled character as he deals with the new changes at Riverdale High (including a new principal who may or may not be out to get Jughead) in his own unique ways.

Now, I’ve been reading Archie Comics since I borrowed them from my brother when I was in elementary school and read them till I was in high school. It was corny and cliched, but I enjoyed the comics for what they were.  Jughead tries to figure out how to take a character with a dislike for dating and odd characteristics and work it into a modern setting and succeeds at it. Jughead still isn’t interested in girls and the trappings of high school drama, but it’s played less like an oddity and instead is more relatable as he frequently retreats to his daydreams of spies, time travel, and a Game of Thrones parody. His actions are a combination of innate personality, his own family (his dad has a dry sense of humor, and dealing with a blow from going to one of the richest kids to one of the poorest and becoming a “loser” of sorts.

One of the strongest elements of the series is the humor that Henderson’s art pairs well with as we see Jughead realize he can make his own burgers and his disdain towards anything associated with Reggie Mantle. You find yourself both laughing at Jughead’s own dramatics while laughing with him as we realize that the world around him is no more sane acting than he is.

While a humorous story that offers a break from the teen drama in the Archie series, Jughead ends up being the more relatable of the two towards a Millennial audience. He approaches problems through the use of pop culture, trying to understand change as the world around him changes and trying to regain power from an environment that seeks to undermine him. If Jughead represents a typical Millennial, then the new principal, Mr. Stanger, represents the negative view of the Millennial as he sees Jughead as nothing more than a nuisance with no respect for authority.

I would definitely recommend Jughead to anyone who wants a humorous comic without some of the teen romance drama. Rating: 5/5

 

 

 

 

Foodie Friday: Daniel Fast, Faux Meat, and Missing Cheese

For two years in a row, my family and I participated in the Daniel Fast through our respective churches. If you’re not familiar with the fast, you essentially abstain from certain foods for 21 days and reflect on God, Jesus, and life in general during this time. Said food includes anything with a leavening agent (no bread for you), added sugar (and no, you’re raw sugar doesn’t count), animal products, drinks that aren’t water and fruit or vegetable juice, and anything fried.

In other words, a lot of good stuff and abstaining from Starbucks. But hey, I’ve learned a few things from participating in the fast:

  1. All I do is plan, plan, plan! I’m not saying you need a detailed list, but you should have an idea of what you want to do for each day.
  2. You’re limited, but not that limited in food choice. One of the biggest complaints I’ve heard is that all they can have is beans and rice. This was confusing to me because all it takes is expanding one’s mind to see all that you can do. You would think with globalization we would be more creative with what we can eat.
  3. If all else fails, faux it up with faux meat. My mom and I experimented with a variety of meat alternatives including veggie dogs, veggie Italian sausage, and patties. Of the ones we’ve had, the veggie dog tasted like a real hot dog while the others seemed to keep their vegetable and grain tastes with some seasoning. Either way, it was all good and it allowed us a bit more wiggle room.
  4. It does limit your social outings. You never realize how much food is at the center of social gatherings until you’ve restricted yourself from 85% (a guess) of restaurants. Now you’re saying I could just attend and sip on some water, but there’s nothing less fun than watching people eat food you want to eat.
  5. Joining the food label bookclub. Because I had to check to make sure there were no animal products or added sugar in the food we bought, I’m now looking on the back of every item.
  6. #NoRegrets. And in spite of missing cheese and staring forlornly as I pass by Starbucks, I have no regrets doing the Fast. I feel good, got closer to God, and realizing that it’s time to cut back on the meat.

I would definitely recommend trying this at least once in your life. It’s a good start to a new year and a good way to explore different foods.

 

 

Experiment with Formats

In Blogging 101, today we discussed having a feature for our blog. I’m going to experiment with two features: Foodie Friday and Media Monday.

Foodie Friday will focus on interesting recipes I find or create, food reviews, and discussing trends. Media Monday will focus on any media related news (such as new movie releases, TV Shows, etc.), discussions about shows, and discussing new trends.

The first Foodie Friday will come out tomorrow and Media Monday will come up this Monday.

 

The Doer and the Planner at War

[Based on this prompt: https://dailypost.wordpress.com/prompts/learning-style/]

There are two approaches when it comes to creating: Be the doer or be the planner. The doer takes action and dives into their work, hoping that whatever they create will work out in the end. The planner is the one who believes in outlines and using a pencil before inking in pen.

For me, I possess both and it feels like they are at war with one another.

The planner in me will have outlines for everything in a notebook, plans for the future that may or may never come to past. Lines struck through sentences and new sentences written above the to indicate new changes in the script or writing. They are more likely to learn from others, fervently reading numerous writing blogs and books.

The planner in me can freeze when it comes to making the art itself. Whether it’s pursuing unattainable perfection or simply having new ideas, nothing concrete comes out of it.

In contrast, the doer has done what the planner couldn’t accomplish. They will pound out a story or a blog post like this in a matter of hours, maybe even minutes and post it for the world. To learn is to use one’s own hands and eyes could be considered the motto of this other persona. And if that means that grammar will be overlooked or an important point was missed, then so be it says the doer.

So, who should take priority in my creative process?

I say it’s time for the two to make peace. The planner can make the doer slow down and make sure the best product is put forth while the doer can shove the planner out of the room of could and should and into the world of action. I do not have to choose between the two as I sit with my notebook in hand with a new plan of attack for this novel.

They are two halves to the whole of my creative self. Neglecting one for another will only stifle my creativity and prevent my from learning to be the best.