Hey 18 to 25 somethings! I’m going to let you in on a little secret about your parents and what happens to them when you go to college or move out of their house.
They stop being boring.
When I went to college, it was like a switch went off in my parents and suddenly I would get text messages of their various outings. They go partying on roof tops in Las Vegas. They start acting like their the stars of a Julia Roberts rom com. Heck, the only time you’ll see them are holidays and your birthday. Your parents are doing awesome things and not inviting you to tag along. And that is okay
You see, your parents had lives before you, both as single people and as a couple. You took up their attention because they had to take care of you and now that your self-sufficient, you’re not the center. This doesn’t mean your parents don’t love you but come on, it’s time to start cutting the cord. Your parents are trying to navigate their lives post-children and you guilt tripping them for going on a trip without you is not helping matters.
So what should you do? Try not to call everyday. Once a week is enough for them to know that you’re alive. Have a social life of your own, hang out with your own friends, do your own thing. When you come to visit, recognize that your parents will want to have dates and you might be left in the house for a week.
You’re an adult now and you are getting to the point where you will be on equal terms with your parents. It’s a scary idea but it has to happen at some point.
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